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Up All Night Jane

The musings, relationships, sexcapades, and life of Jane- a hot, DC area 24 year old.

Sunday, November 06, 2005

What is Fear Really?

    Life has been interesting lately... In one of those boring personal growth ways that- while is beneficial to go through- isn't that exciting to talk about. I have been so good lately. None of the self destructive behavior of the past, which had I been writing this blog for 6 years you would have seen as a prevalent pattern. What? I liked to drink and kiss my problems away and while that led to great stories... wasn't the most fulfilling way to go about life. I felt empty, superficial, numb and sometimes a little ashamed and embarrassed about the way I would behave and the situations I would put myself in. I'm not saying I never want to randomly kiss a guy or get drunk but I want to have a life that is deeper than that. I want my life to mean more than that... I don't know... Just what I've been thinking about.
    Not much to report on the boy front. Other than my Australian love drunk dialing me and emailing me; a college crush calling me all the time; and this one hot guy at work that makes me revert to childhood crush antics when I see him. I act like I am 12 when he comes around. I blush, I stammer, I actually squirm. But he definitely knows I exist cause he goes out of his way to talk to me and stare at my awkward reactions to him. He is older and way too knowledgeable about how hot he is so I doubt anything will happen and plus we barely run into each other. But oh so hot!
    Work has had a huge turn around. Sadly I can't talk about it even though it is really exciting for me and life consuming... but  because I refuse to be one of those people who get fired for blogging or who scandalizes her work environment by blogging about it. But let's just say, I took a slight career change that I had been meaning to take but was too chicken shit to. But I haven't committed myself 100% which is something I really should although I just can't get the guts to. What can I say I like stability and hate change! I gotta fix that!
    That is one thing I have been noticing lately. Fear. Some people live their whole lives cowering and scared of everything. Scared of change, scared of the good, the bad, the unknown, the possibilities, the chance to succeed or be rejected. When I was drunk all the time, I didn't give a fuck about anything. I had minimal fear or drank it's hinting presence away. Now that I don't get drunk all the time, I am aware and SCARED of everything! I am afraid to fail, to really succeed, to take the chances that it takes to succeed. I am afraid to love, to be hated, to hate, to everything! How does this happen??! I thought personal growth and getting in touch with yourself would lead to only good things, instead it is making me aware of too much. I suppose I have always been afraid and that is why I hid behind alcohol and boys and partying, but how come I felt so fearless? I felt invincible then. Now I feel so small. I guess this is part of becoming a better person- sorting through the unpleasant. But it's not like I have that much unpleasant to sort through. I guess it is more like I was still living the college kid's life without taking charge of my life or responsibility for my path because I was too busy partying it up which let's face it only lead to hangovers, superficial friendships that are based on alcohol and bar-hopping, and blacked out moments of forced intimacy... with the hottest guys... hehe, just kidding... kinda.
    Oh you know what else, this guy that I hooked up with on New Years drunk dialed me out of the blue at 3 am last night. I'll have to tell you that story later cause that was a good one!
    Sorry for not writing sooner, thanks for bearing with me! I just didn't want to get all philosophical on your ass for 3 straight weeks! Hope everyone is good!
Luv, Jane

Tuesday, October 11, 2005

Break up, What I Want, Boobs Out and Seeing a Penis

Hi there,
    Yes I know, it has been awhile and my blog has been taken over by prankish advertisers for premature ejaculation-hehe. Funny, they would choose my site for premature ejaculation! But hey, I hadn't been posting enough and that sure woke me up but no more! And if I ever neglect you again DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do that to get me to post again. It won't work, I'll just give up and be like, "I hate premature ejaculation" (I apologize to any readers who may be experiencing it. It can be looked at as flattering? We girls get you so worked up that ka-boom!-hehe. But enough on that subject! I have 53 freakin comments about it! Thanks to all who helped to direct me on how I might be able to stop it- it is being worked on!).
    So as you can imagine, the last couple of weeks have been interesting... I broke up with Mark over a week ago. It was quite the good break up if I say so myself. I just kind of did it and he was great about it- very accepting, reassuring, and sweet. Do you want the details? I've been shy around you lately. I guess I worry that you'll blame the break up on me and call me one of those bloggers who can't keep a man and has unhealthy relationships. Maybe that's my worst fear. Or I'm afraid you'll tell me that all the signs point to him being a lying asshole cheater and I'll feel blown over and shocked that I couldn't see it and that you did...         Honestly, he wasn't into it. We were dating 5 months and he didn't have his hands all over me, he wasn't in love with me. Grant it, I wasn't in love with him but I was into him enough to be thoughtful, sweet, and extra horny-hehe... and he wasn't. Maybe he's just not that type. But I don't want a guy who's not that type. I want absolute passion, I want a guy who notices everything about me, who wants to touch me always.
    I think I realized it one night with my guy friends. I was over at Phil's house and my current best guy friend Dave was there and he is the best, he really is. But lately sometimes I wonder if the fact that I know he WOULD hook up with me and he makes it apparent is a problem, but anyways that is another issue.
    So I am sitting there talking to Dave and I'm saying something perverted and I suddenly get embarassed and look down, then look back up and smile kind of unsure, kind of wickedly, and kind of bashfully, And he goes, "That was the cutest smile you just did. That really was" and as he said that I remembered that guy I used to talk to when I first dated Mark who made me feel like everything I said was so interesting, so funny, so great and I thought, "MARK DOESN't DO THAT..". He doesn't comment on anything about me, not the little things that make dating so fun. The only thing I could think of that he had said in the last few weeks that was noticing like that was, "You have really long eyelashes" to which I teasingly replied, "Yeah, you're just noticing now?". So anyways, I wanted more. He didn't do anything adherently wrong. There was no cheating or lying that I knew of. He just wasn't crazy about me and I want that. I want someone to let me be crazy about them, every inch of them, every part of them. That is what makes me tick and I always knew Mark was a bit passive and not in touch with his emotions but in the beginning he at least was all over me and attentive and then it's like he got too comfortable. I don't want someone so easily or so quickly comfortable with me. I want him on the edge of his seat cause c'mon I am a wild one, I deserve that!
    So we get on the phone and he is talking about his weekend and not at all mentionning if we will hang out. And I hadn't seen him in a week! And I was horny and definitely unhappy so I said,
    "Hey we should talk..."
    "You're not happy, are you?"
    "Nope" I began tearing up. He couldn't see we're on the phone but I could feel it creep up in my voice. " I think we'd be better off as friends... You're just not putting in the effort I would want. You always say you will and then you do this huge thing of effort and then it trickles off. I could wait around until your schedule clears up or you're more ready but I don't want to. It's not fair to me. I deserve better.." My voice chokes at this point. I'm praying he doesn't notice. He is quiet.
    "You DO deserve better. I'm really sorry. I guess I thought I was better off than I am. Maybe I'm not ready for a relationship (ex girlfriend of 6 years became a lesbian 2 months before we started dating). I really did want it to work, you're so great and I love spending time with you and being with you... I guess it's just the wrong time for me" Now I'm quiet.
    "I know, I picked up on that... I knew it was a goner when you told me you were going through a selfish phase (yes, he actually said that!), I just wish you would have admitted it sonner."
    "I'm sorry, I didn't really know. I really thought I could do it." In my head, I'm thinking if you could've just tried harder, maybe... but I don't say anything. "Trust me, when I say you didn't do anything wrong. This has nothing to do with you. You are great and deserve the best from a guy, the best guy. I'm sorry I couldn't be that." I'm starting to want to cry so I try to cut it off.
    "Well, I'm glad we're so mature about this. Seriously, I'd like to be friends."
    "Me too, I want to know how you're doing, what you're up to."
    "Ok, well I'll leave the ball in your court"
    "Yeah, I'll give you a call soon"
    "OK." Don't cry, don't cry.
    "I'm really sorry again."
    "I know me too, ok well I'm glad we were honest... And Mark, let's say you end up not calling? I just want you to know I wish you the best. I really do hope you find a nice, honest, faithful, unlesbianic girl" He laughs. I smile.
    "You too except that it'd be a guy who has nothing to do with lesbians!"
    "Ok, well take care."
    "Yeah, you too. I'll call you soon"
    "Ok. Have a good night and weekend. Bye." I hang up and I'm not gonna lie. I cry. I hate change.
    I mope the next two days that here I thought I had found someone and it didn't work out-that now I had the uncertainty of singleness and had to get back in the game. And then I looked at Cosmo's male eye candy issue and I cheered up. I thought even though there' s the unknown factor that is what makes being single so fun. You don't know who you're gonna meet, kiss, end up dating and that can be cool. And God the rock hard bodies in that issue- mmm-mmm good!
    I'm not gonna lie I have wanted to be self destructive to help deal with the change. My first instinct is to drink and make out and touch every guy in site. But I am 24 now. I need to be mature about it. My health still does not permit me to drink- so there goes that escape and it's kinda hard to kiss a stranger when you're sober but that is my goal!-lol. I want to be able to do everything I did drunk sober. And so far I am doing pretty good! Saturday I went over to Phil's house for a party. I danced up a storm and then when everyone stopped dancing and I was alone in the kitchen with the music still blasting, I kept on dancing cause I knew that is what I would do if I was drunk. We played drinking games, I chugged water. And we played truth or dare. I had to kiss a girl and I did it- although when she stuck her tongue down my throat, I commented mid-kiss- "Yeah that was definitely some tongue" while her tongue was still in my mouth. I then proceeded to strip down to just my tank-top. So there I am sitting at the table playing cards with no panties, no pants on and in just this cleavage highlighting tank top (what can I say, when I get depressed I like to show my boobs. That way I look down and I go, "Oh hello there! You look hot!"). It was hysterical. Although in my sober state I was wondering if it was hygenic to be sitting in a wooden chair with no underwear on...hehe, what do you think?
    Well I am gonna go watch TV. It is time. Oh and guess who text messaged me at 10:30 IN THE MORNING. Mark. First time he made contact and he asked how I was and said he would call soon to catch up... What-ever?- hehe.
Luv, Jane
P.S. I have seen a penis ALREADY just not in a sexual sense just in a this-guy-had-a-penis-piercing-and-I-said-show-me and of course I saw my guy friends asses but that doesn't count!

Monday, October 10, 2005

STOP POSTING ADS and readers, Help!!!

OHMYGOD!! Please stop posting ads or links to your premature ejaculation sites or any other site!! For the love of GOD!! The same people keep posting over and over again. Please stop! I don't get that much traffic and no one is going to click on your link. Any readers know how to erase it, stop it, and report it? Please help! And then I'll eb back to posting regularly. Had a naughty weekend to share about! ;)
Luv, Jane
P.S. Please see the 53 comments on the last post for what I am talking about and then please help!

Sunday, September 25, 2005

Yes, you can spank me...

    I know, I've been naughty, I apologize. I must post more or face the consequences... Spanking anyone? Hehe, kidding... or am I?
    So things have been ok. Why just ok? I am not quite sure. Mark has been just ok and I expect more than ok. So I am seeing singledom in my near future. But let's face it, I am more fun when I am single!
    I went to Virginia Tech for the first time ever this weekend with some friends. So much fun! But I swear the way they go about football? Total cult. I have never seen such rabid fans before- all the stomping, cheering, chanting, emotion...l It was INSANE! I have never seen such enthusiasm. It was contagious though. Tech won if you saw the game- BIG TIME! So there was some serious celebrating!
    We went bar-hopping like no other, reminded me so much of college. And the college boys? Pretty darn cute- reminding me again that singleness might be a good idea!! What is up with these side-swept shaggy haircuts these young'uns are sporting? Kind of like a surfer boy kind of look? A bit Jesse McCartney if you ask me although who am I kidding? I have to suppress my lust for that child because that is just what he is- an 18 year old child!! Seeing all those 22 year olds in their prime with their tight bods- wow-lol. It made me remember why I usually like them young! I behaved though, cause I'm not single YET. Plus those boys don't know how to pick up a woman. I got the stupidest pick up lines. As I'm walking by at the tailgating, this hottie catches my eye and he goes, "You! Here! Now!"... Um, no. I squinted a little at him and he repeats, "You! Come here now!" I look at my friend and laugh, "Are you kidding me?" I say to her then turn to say, "Sorry I don't follow commands!" which made him give me this sheepish, chastized look. Crazy college boys!
    I got absolutely no sleep this weekend, so I must go close my eyes and catch up on that but perhaps I will share more about my trip this week. All this week, I have this Company conference event where I get to eat at the best restaurants on teh company- whoo-hoo! I'll try to fit you in ;).
Luv, Jane

Saturday, September 03, 2005

What is your favorite sexual experience?

Hi there. How are you? ;)  Mark spent the night yesterday (things went perfectly- nothing exciting or dramatic to report or discuss). Is it wrong that I almost feel bored? I suppose that is a natural reaction to a life style change. I went from wildly single to monogamous central. I'm not sure I'm complaining just throwing it out there. Plus, I don't really know what's gonna happen. Who knows if this is going to be long term or short term. It seems long term by all his plan making but sometimes I feel a bit unsure. But that is the exciting part because you don't know what is going to happen.
    So I have a question to throw out there if anyone feels comfortable answering... What is your favorite sexual experience so far and why? Mine hasn't been with Mark yet but we've only been having sex for about 2 months, I think. I'd have to say my favorite sexual experience was with this guy that oddly, I wasn't in love with and I usually advocate sex in love as the best sex out there. But he was the most intimate sex I ever had because he would stop at least twice during sex to go down on me. IT WAS AMAZING and then there was this one time that after, he lay there looking at me and he cupped my face in his hands and gave me this look. I will never forget that. Now Mark does that too but to me sometimes it feels cheesey (I know, I am such a guy!), with this guy it just didn't. He recently came into town and we met up and perhaps I told you about this, but he said that I was the best he had ever had and the best tasting girl he had ever gone down on. He goes,
    "Freshly showered or a long night of bar-hopping you always tasted amazing" Now grant it, I'm sure some of this flattery had to do with wanting to do an encore performance from our past (which he did not get cause he was notorious for his inconsistency with me), but still... :)
Luv, Jane

Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Do Caring of Pets Correlate to Effort with Girlfriend?

    I've been in a crummy mood and did not want to infect you guys with my negativity, but alas I cannot neglect you entirely so you will have to excuse my unsunny disposition. Why am I in a bad mood? Well, my health isn't 100% as I have mentionned and it is really bringing me down. Job woes that  we won't get into. And finally Marcus Aurelius is driving me nuts. He started a new job last week, is moving into a new apartment this Saturday (Just 5 blocks from my work- whoo-hoo!) and with all this commotion, we have not been able to see each other that much. Grant it, we talk on the phone everyday but as to be expected, he is always a bit stressed and occupied.
     The last two weeks, hee has been consistently unreliable and inconsistent (consistently inconsistent- love it!) by making plans and then the day of canceling them for a usually legitimate reason. I'm understanding, I get all this change will do that to your schedule but I hate it when people say they're going to do something and don't come through. Don't say you're going to do something, unless you're 100% sure you can. Make it tentative then for God's sake! I am like his #5 priority right now and that is frustrating enough and let's just say that doing me is like #6 on the list- sexual frustration city. I'm trying to be supportive and all that, but I am starting to wonder if this unreliability is character related or situational. From the beginning of our relationship he has always had a bit of a delay following through with what he says (He'll say because his career situation and living situation were not conducive. I say stop making excuses!). He complains that I never call him, and that he does all the calling. I say when you cancel plans like that it makes me not want to call you and makes me feel like it is again your turn to call since you are gone all the time.
    So I sat him down (on the phone) mentionned my concerns and he told me all this was totally situational, that from next week and onward, it wouldn't be a problem, I would notice a big difference, etc. He said he understood where I was coming from, agreed with me, expected me to feel this way (great validation!), etc. Then he says he will make it up to me this week. We tentatively discuss getting together during the week. Well it's Wednesday night and no plans have been made so I am assuming no, we're not. Then he said, Friday for sure, even if it meant delaying his move until Saturday. He got brownie points there. THEN he tells me that Saturday he is going out of town to Baltimore to see a friend. Perhaps I am being presumptious but when you're trying to win a girls unannoyance back, don't you NOT go out of town?? He wants to be back Sunday morning so he can go with me to the Chesapeake bay to meet my Dad and go boating, But he is showing concern for the time that we leave with my Dad since he'll be spending the night out of town, and I am just annoyed. STAY IN THE AREA, BUDDY. Is that too much to ask? And aren't you moving Saturday? I guess I just had this fantasy of me helping him move and then spending the first night with him there and christening every freakin' room in the house. I didn't share this thought with him though. Should I have? Instead I just sounded aloof when he mentionned going out of town.
    I also got annoyed when we were discussing how he's going to move his bed. So this is a typical girl comment, but I always thought that you absolutely, positively needed to get movers to move a bed. Not so, says Mark. All he needs is a screw driver and maybe an extra set of hands.
    "You mean you never moved a bed before??" he asks as if it was that I had never eaten a sandwich before.
    "Well, no. I've always had movers do it."
    "Gosh, it's so simple. I can't believe you'd pay someone to do that when you can just do it yourself"
    "Well isn't it really heavy?"
    "No, it's not." And then he insinuated that I'm some prissy girl who makes guys do her dirty work and that I'm not self sufficient then I got severely annoyed and said.
    "What? I am 100% self sufficient. I don't need or want anyone to do stuff for me. I hate asking for people's help and even more, I never want to have to rely on someone for stuff because I hate needing people" blah, blah. I talked for awhile. He said I was cute cause I was getting all worked up and all I could think about was this one time we were talking about pets and how he said he doesn't want any cause he wants his life low maintenance. So I suggested a plant and he said only if he didn't have to water it every day and I'm sitting there thinking how that could possibly relate to me in that he wants me low maintenance and to not put a lot of effort in a relationship (Big stretch, you think?). And all I want is effort. Without effort, relationships become lazy and who wants that?! Just frustrated, I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune tomorrow. Thanks for letting me vent!
Luv, Jane

Friday, August 26, 2005

Where do you keep your tension?

Hi there.
    So no big plans for the weekend except to do Mark- hehe. My stomach is still acting up so any partying would be ill-advised. Have you ever noticed that there is a place in your body where you keep your tension? For some people it's in their jaw, their hands, their heads, etc, for me it's in my stomach. I know this because everytime I get mad or upset, my stomach feels like it is tied up inknots. Upon hearing shocking, devastating news; I usually throw up- how pleasant-hehe. After certain traumatic break-ups, I couldn't eat for days and had a constant, never ending ache in my stomach. And now my stomach decides to act up when there's nothing stressful or upsetting going on?? I suppose it has its battle wounds and maybe now that it finally has some rest, it is like, "Yeah, I'll show you for twisting me up all those years!". Or maybe it's cause I still carry my past with me. Don't we all? I suppose some people know how to truly let go, forget, or remember it in a way that leaves them satisfied... Not me! I only think about it from time to time but when I do I am not at peace with it, I get mad! Anger, as long as it is not bitter, feels empowering to me. It has always mobilized me into action. If I'm mad about something or don't like it, change it! But what happens when you can't change it? The day I know that answer... zen-like eternal happiness ;).
Luv, Jane

The Best Fling of my Life

    So just seconds ago, I received a call from Australia. I traveled Europe for 2 months a little over a year ago and met the hottest guy there from Sydney.Have I told you the story? I don't think I have so I will tell it to you now.
    I traveled Europe with a tour group called Contiki. It was cheap, it was all young people and I have to say when I arrived in London, I was pleasantly surprised to find it to be all twenty-somethings wanting to party it up like it was spring break! My group was mostly Australians (so hot), some New Zealanders, some Canadians, and a few Americans like me. There were 30 of us in total.  Everyone was so friendly and cool. He was the first person I saw that I was immeadiately attracted to.    
     I had just arrived from the airport in London and was waiting to check into my hotel, when I saw him. He looked like a God. Tall, tan, chiseled with muscles in his legs that made me want to do bad things to him and to myself while watching him. It was one of the strongest, spontaneous physical attractions I've ever experienced. He walks by with two equally attractive friends, but I only saw him. He had this curlyish light brown, dark blonde hair- very golden and these gorgeus green eyes and did I mention a body like a God?-lol. He was wearing these drawstring cargo pants that he had rolled up above the knee. I'm not gonna lie, I stared but he stared right back. I had made friends in the tour rather quickly and I remember sitting with these 2 girls and him walking by and me staring.
    "That's the guy, I told you about. God, isn't he gorgeus. I hope he's on our tour". Just then he turns around and looks at me.
    "Looks like he likes you too because he just looked at you!" one of the girls said squeezing my arm excitedly.
    "No that's just because I keep staring at him. He must be like, 'Who is that girl and what is up with her staring problem?' " The girls laughed. I found out 15 minutes later he was on my tour. Oh the excitement I felt. The next day we set off in a bus to France and at one point we got introduced.
    "I'm Craig, nice to meet you." he said in that hot, sexy accent. We maintained eye contact for a second. But then that night when we all went to a bar, he got really drunk and hit on me in a very unimpressive, typical fashion. I can't remember what he exactly said but I remember getting the feeling from him that he was looking for a hook up. To be honest, everyone on our tour was hooking up with each other. Through-out the course of the trip, one girl slept with 5 guys on the tour and people slept with one person one night and then the next night switched or swapped partners. I was 23 and a bit past that stage in my life. I wanted a fling, a European local or a hot, passionate thing with someone on my tour or with someone from one of the other Contiki tours which met up with us in the major European cities. I did not want a one night thing. SO I brushed him off, as hot as he was thinking he probably had no substance. Shortly after our encounter, I saw him all over this girl from our tour who everyone thought was my sister we looked that alike so I thought,"Hey, I was right about him." . I was disappointed. I had really wanted a fling on my tour and he was the only one I wanted it to be with. So I met a guy from another tour and made out with him-hehe. But then he was gone to a different city than us (He was from Sydney like Craig, in fact he and Craig played rugby together at one point in their lives). I was bummed because he was really respectful, sweet, and thought I was amazing. But to be honest, I didn't feel it with him like I had initially with Craig.
    Meanwhile, Craig and I became friends. After that first night, I never saw him with a girl ever- he just hung out with me. It was funny because during the day I hung out with my girls and he and I were cordial and might spend time together in a group but not really alone. But then whenever the night came along and we'd be drinking, it was just he and I. I was conviced he was a player and wanted nothing to do with him- except when I was drunk. He'd be shyly kind of hitting on me, but it was never blatant and I'd be poking fun at him and play arguing calling him a player and saying I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole. Yes, it was childish joking but he was a year younger than me- 22 so I felt it was age appropriate. One night trying to be one of the boys, I hung out with him and his buddies and drank absenthe. Now I know some people hallucinate and do crazy things. Me, I passed out in Craig's bed. I remember him lying down next to me. I remember putting one of my legs up against his legs. I'm not sure how long I slept. But suddenly he was waking me up and walking me to my room, I remember him saying in this sad tone, "I know you would want to wake up in your bed and not mine".
    Slowly I started to see Craig different. He was the only guy not fucking everybody and the turning point was in Monaco. I dressed up because we were going to the famous casinos. When I walked in, the way he looked at me- it was so cute. It was the first time sober that just he and I hung out. We just sat and talked about our past relationships while everyone else got drunk. We walked by ourselves without drinking and then at one point he takes out his digital camera to show me some of the pictures he had taken of this bridge I hadn;'t gotten to see. As I am looking over his shoulder, all of a sudden I see all these pictures of me where I'm not looking at the camera. He got really embarassed and mumbled,"Oh I was just trying to take a picture of the museum behind you". It was his reaction that made me think otherwise plus that there were like 5 pictures of "sites" with me being the only one in them! I remember looking at him differently. That night everyone else did tequila shots off each other while he and I just talked. The next day, I decided I liked him and it was time. I remember walking in for dinner and it was like, we both knew. Our eyes met and without him taking his eyes off me he walked right up to me and said something flirtacious. That night we all went to the bar and he and I kind of separated ourselves from the group. I worried that perhaps he only wanted me because he didn't think he could have me, because I had made it clear early on I wouldn't be hooking up with him or my tourmates. But I couldn't resist any longer. So when he walked me to the bathroom, I turned to him and said,
    "I don't need to kiss you, I don' want to fuck you. All I want to do is this" and I rubbed my body against his and ran my hands from his chest to his stomach and along his arms (WHat? He had the hottest body!!). He looked at me in surprise and disbelief, which quickly turned to lust. I looked back at him,
    "There, that's it. That's all I wanted to do." I said and then started to walk away.
    "Wait, wait, wait." he said, grabbing my arm gently and pulling me to him. We looked at each other and in my head I thought, "Well maybe this kiss will make me like him less cause he could be really bad". So slowly, we both leaned in and when his lips touched mine- bham, it was over. The kiss was amazing. He skillfully played with my mouth and when it was over, I groaned,
    "Aww man, you're a good kisser as well!" He laughed. That was on the 15th day of the tour. I waited quite a bit after that before we slept together which seemed like months since we were in a spring break environment and EVERYONE was doing it, in rooms next to us! I noticed he didn't like the wait. I remember one night we went to this huge club in Florence where 5 other Contiki Tour Groups were with us. I worried Craig would want to party it up with his boys, forget about me, and partake in all the casual sex going on. Grant it, we were on vacation, I was even tempted at times because the locals were so hot! But that night he was all by my side all night, but kind of on the quiet side. At one point, I left him alone to dance with my girls and this hot blonde walked up to him and from the corner of my eye, I watched him ignore her and brush her off. After that, I knew I was going to do him. We left the club early and when we got to my cabin, he was so quiet.
    "What's wrong?" I asked.
    "Nothing" he said.
    "C'mon you've been quiet all night..."
    "It's just it makes me upset that you don't trust me. I want to sleep with you so bad but you -" Previously, I had said I wasn't ever going to have sex with him. I had always been one to only use sex when I was in love or in a relationship. I assumed in this fling, I wouldn't want to bring sex to the table. But I changed my mind. I put my finger over his mouth and grinded my crotch into his.
    "Shhh..."
    "Just hear me out-"
    "No, cause I want to BE with you too..."
    "Yes, but- wait what?"
    "You heard me, I want to BE with you" I said moving my hips seductively against his. He looked at me,
    "You don't have to just cause I want to, I want you to-"
    "Will you stop arguing with me? I want to too" I said sexily. My saying I wanted him dilated his pupils in those pretty green eyes.
    "Are you sure?" AT this point I was already in his arms.
    "Yes." We looked at each other and then kissed. The sex was tender and sweet. It was so dark that we kept touching and feeling each other's faces to make sure we were still there. It was sex that made me ache at how tender it was. AFterwards he goes,
    "I love making love to you. I love the noises you make" I snuggled in closer.
    "I love the noises you make" he squirmed a little.
    "You do?"
    "Yep, they're hot"
    "I always thought they were annoying" I giggled, he's 22 let's give him a break.
    "No, it makes me want you more." We kissed and then went to bed. His friends came over to have sex with my roommates and when they saw us in bed together they clapped and said, "Finally Craig got more than 'Hugs"!" which they had nicknamed him because he hung out with me so much and all he got were "hugs", did I mention they were 22 as well?
    Anyways. after that we had this passionate fling in which we spent 24/7 together, had one hot arguement in the rain, and said a tearful goodbye to what we thought was forever.
    Since then, we email every so often. He's called me once before this. He knows about Mark. Craig even dated a girl for a couple months. But he drunk dialed me right now and I gotta say of course I like Mark... but Craig? Still makes me a flustered schoolgirl!
Luv, Jane
P.S. After asking how Mark and I were, he said he missed me and informed me he may getting a job at the Australian embassy here in the US. That would be interesting... But I'll believe it when I see it.
 
 

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

Fun, Singles Bartending Class

I don't normally advertise. But I absolutely love this blog- www.sexandmoxie.blogspot.com (especially the early stuff!) and the author is having a DC event so thought I'd give it a shout out. If anyone goes, let me know. I'd love to hear how it went!
Luv, Jane
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DC SINGLES BARTENDING CLASS - SEPT 14
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Singles Bartending Class at Zipper Lounge
Wed, Sept 14th
7-9:30pm
Zipper Lounge - 2406 18th Street
Presented by MoxieintheCity.net

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Everyone flirts with the bartender, right?
So why not learn how to be a bartender? The actual `class portion` will
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Cosmopolitan
Dirty Martini
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Tuesday, August 23, 2005

I'll make you wanna Dance on the Bar

It is time. Yes, I suck at posting. What can I say I get busy and I neglect you. I will do my best to post more but the more I post the less I can get out and do stuff to write about! But alas, I love you so I will try to be here more.
    So the weekend was great. LOVED seeing the girls (4 girls that I lived with my senior year in college came for the weekend). Three of the girls arrived Friday afternoon and I picked them up at Dulles Airport. We then came back to my place for a tour, settling in, and to get ready for the big night. It felt like old times, since we always used to get ready together, try on each other's clothes and crank the music. The 4th friend arrived from NYC by bus at 8:30 so we went to pick her up in a really shady part of DC... where we got lost. FOREVER. I was trying to get from the shady part of DC to McFaddens? Didn't work so well. We were lost for about an hour which really killed the mood for a second. But once there, we danced it up. Phil and his friends and a few of my girlfriends showed up and I have to admit, it was hard juggling the groups of friends. To make matters worst, I was just recently diagnosed with a bad case of acid reflux and cannot drink until my stomach heals so I couldn't party it up. But I did dance on the bar completely sober, with a tummy ache, and in a short skirt! So who is still fun now!? ;)
    So there is an update on the Phil front, which I really do not want to write about. But I can't keep secrets from you so here goes... Remember that lingerie show I told you about? Well I blacked out the very end and didn't remember saying good bye to the boys or anything. Apparently, something happened with Phil. Something like he tried to kiss me. Something like I probably confessed my old crush or something gross like that. I don't know the second part for sure but one of Phil's friends who was there, Dave,  told me that Phil and I were talking and that Phil tried to kiss me and that I left the convo unhappy. After hearing this, I was mortified, thankful I am no longer physically able to drink, and I avoided Phil like the plague. Got to admit, wondered if I at all allowed the kiss and whether I am perhaps an evil cheater like all those guys I detest and critisize. I'd rather like to believe that the reason I left the conversation upset is because I am not a cheater and that I was appalled that Phil tried to kiss me. I guess the only person who knows the answer is asshole Phil and I refuse to ask. To be honest, I don't want to know. Obviously, in the end I walked away and nothing happened but my goodness- how awkward! The next night I was not so lucky in avoiding Phil. I took the girls out in Adams Morgan and met up with Phil's friend Dave- who I adore and of course Phil was there, even though I was told he was staying in. Yuck. I'm in line for the coed bathroom with one of my girls and he gets in line and says hello. A tiny bit awkwardly. But let's face it I'm the awkward one in every situation. He looks at my friend and then back at me as if for an introduction.
    "Did you meet Tara?" I ask.
    "No. Not yet." he says rubbing his eyebrow.
    "Tara, Phil. Phil, Tara" They shake hands, I turn away.
    "Yeah, I only saw you for two seconds yesterday so I didn't get to meet any of your friends from college" I keep my eyes on Tara because I AM AWKWARD. He adds as a side note.
    "I guess I have a second chance tonight." I look at him.
    "A second chance for what??" he looks at me almost embarassed.
    "Um, to meet your friends." Then it's my turn to be embarassed.
    "Ohhhh. Sorry. I am just really out of it!" (and awkward and mortified and embarassed and disgusted, etc.). I did not introduce Phil to any more of my friends!
    Mark met up with us and my friends adored him. I have to admit at the beginning, he was a bit shy but then he warmed up. He was so cute, he drank water like me to make me feel better. I told him to drink like everyone else but he wanted to keep me company in my non-drinking.
    I met one of his best friends for the first time and he approved of me. Apparently when I walked up he told Mark, "Damn! You did well for yourself!" and later told him that he hadn't expected me to be so hot. That makes me feel nice! Mark held my hand in front of everyone and kissed me goodbye. It was cute! An all around good time!
Luv, Jane

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Yeah I'll Trust Plus Weekend of Camelot?

Hey all,
    Yeah from the comments I basically get the gist that a) Mark didn't give the greatest answer in the world and b) trust is key in a relationship so asking that question is a little pointless. I get it and I agree. I have always felt pretty safe with him and trusting... I guess I had one freak out day. It happens. I'm over it. I'm moving on.
    Mark's career crisis is finally over with and he got a big raise. I'm excited. I've never SERIOUSLY dated a guy who made more money than me, it will be interesting to see what that is like. Now he just has to fix up his living situation (buying a place) and then we'll really be able to see where he and I are at. He's been good lately. I've been sick and he's been really sweet and thoughtful about it.
    I had my first experience with anesthesia this week. I had a minor surgical procedure where they stick a tiny camera down your throat to look into your stomach and they put me to sleep for that. At first I was really nervous but once the IV was in, I was like, "Whoo-hoo! This feels good! I'm feeling drunk!" and then I slept through the whole procedure. Apparently I have a bad case of acid reflux which means no caffeine, ALCOHOL (I KNOW!!), fatty/fried/spicy foods until my stomach heals- all of my favorite things! Dammit!
    On a high note, 4 girlfriends are coming down for the weekend and I plan to get crazy! I may not eb able to drink but I want to make up for it by taking them somewhere insane- maybe Swingers night at Bar Nun or Camelot?- hehe, j/k... kinda ;). Will have lot to update you on after the weekend! Any weekend suggestions? Leave 'em here! (SO far I'm thinking McFaddens, Chloe, Vida on Friday, Hotel Washington, etc)
Luv, Jane

Monday, August 15, 2005

A Bumbling Idiot

    I'm in a bit of a reflective mood. Everything's fine now but that's always when I worry the most. So much to lose... Plus, I just got on the pill and I've noticed I've been more emotional- tres annoying! I hate it. Mark spent the weekend. I found myself so into him, it scared me. I kept focusing on the fact that I do trust him which is inspiring considering my past! But for the first time, I started feeling uneasy about my trust. How blind it is, like all trust is. I guess I don't wnat to get fucked over but in order to truly live you have to at all moments be risking that. I'm scared, I'm uneasy and I looked for him for reassurance and I hate when I do that. I don't want to need reassurance for anyone but myself.
    I realized this weekends I play games. Well, maybe that's too harsh. I found myself dismissing how into Mark I am TO HIM. Physically, I was a needy little fiend but I kept dismissing any emotional reassurance I needed from him. Playing it off that I am this independent, completely secure woman that I want to be... But I'm not quite there. I guess I wanted Mark to tell me how trustworthy he is, how into me he is, stupid stuff like that. But it wasn't the way he was acting that made me want this. It was me. He was all hand-holdy, kissy, etc. But then again, I guess at this point I want more verbal reassurance that he's into me, etc. He does it with his actions which is the way it should be! I don't know why I want to hear him say it or why all of a sudden I'm a little insecure. I can be so confident at times and then bham, I get like a little girl. I think it's cause I'm slowly falling for him and I want to make sure that I know what I'm getting into. That I know who he is and that I can trust him in stressful times. Cause life is stress. I categorized him from the start as this SAFE, TOO NICE of a guy... As I get to know him and since his little freak out, I'm not so sure I pegged him correctly. I mean he is a nice guy, he seems honorable, he seems honest but he's got some bad boy tendencies not PRESENTLY but in his past such as experimenting with drugs, etc.
    He said a few comments that for some reason rubbed me wrong. I realize I am probably overreacting and that is the hormones from the pill talking (I HATE THE PILL!!) but I can't help that it bothered me a tad. THe first thing that bothered me was when I brought up why he thought cheating was bad. His answer was something like, "Because it's stupid. You should just be honest and say 'I want to be with someone else, I'm sorry'. It's such a mean thing to do and the consequences are horrible.."
    "Oh you mean if she finds out"
    "Well yeah"
    "And we girls ALWAYS find out" he touched my nose. "But why else?" I said.
    "I dunno. No one's ever asked me that."
    "I mean how do I know you wouldn't cheat?"
    "Because I don't cheat. It's never been something I was into. I've never done it in the past, why would I start now?" I bit my lip, does anyone else not like his answer or is it just me? He noticed.
    "My life isn't conducive to cheating at all."
    "What do you mean?"
    "Well until I buy a place, I am living with friends, I couldn't take a girl home"- ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?-LOL. WHO SAYS THAT?? He noticed that I had widened my eyes and was looking at him in shock.
    "No, I don't want to take a girl home, I'm just saying there is no way I would cheat on you" I scooted away, crossed my arms- body language CENTRAL.
    "Dude, for future refrence when a girl asks you why you wouldn't cheat, don't tell her why it's not situationally possible for you! Oh my God!" I fake laughed it off a little.
    "I'm sorry, I didn't mean it that way. I was just trying to reassure you and let you know how impossible it would be for me to cheat on you." I still didn't look happy.
    "Hey if I was a cheater I would've come up with some smooth answer. The fact that I'm such a bumbling idiot about this PROVES I wouldn't cheat"
Sure, buddy, surre- just kidding. I don't know I thought it was a lame-o answer. I can't tell if it's my gut reacting, my past issues, or my hormones. I hate being a girl!
Luv, Jane

Thursday, August 11, 2005

Does Mark Know? And a Correlation to a Lifetime Movie

    So in the comments, I was asked if Mark knows about this site. And the answer is no. Am I gonna tell him? Ummm, I hadn't really thought about it. But I don't think so.
    To be honest, I haven't told any of my friends about this blog. I think if they knew or if Mark knew I might censor myself alittle and I like being able to express myself freely here, don't you? ;)
    The thing that appeals to me about blogging is that you can be somewhat anonymous and that you're judged by what you write and not by your face(although there are a few fellow bloggers who have met me and therefore know my face!). I like that. That is kind of the reason I blog- to write about my life in a diary-like fashion and to be free to write whatever I feel like and get honest feedback from other bloggers who enjoy reading and writing blogs like I do. 
    I wouldn't freak out if any of my friends came across the site and recognized that it was me- that would be fine. All of their identities have been protected, if you notice I rarely call them by name except for Phil and "Phil" isn't Phil's real name. Neither is Mark. I figure my reader doesn't need to know the person's actual name so I name them a name I think suits them what they physically look like, although now that I think about it Mark should be a Brad, as in Brad Pitt- hehe. Perhaps Phil should Ethically, I wouldn't feel right putting out their real names when I sometimes give out certain details about them that correlate with my life.  If Mark came across this site, it might be a little weird but Mark and my friends aren't really into blogs that I know of and the chances are slim I think.
    Is it a betrayl not to tell Mark? I write poetry a lot and Mark doesn't really know that. I think keeping certain non-essential details a secret keeps the spice in a relationship. In the Lifetime movie, "A Dive From Clausen Pier" she falls out of love with her 7 year highschool sweetheart because as he says they've "run out of secrets to tell each other". I understand some secrets like cheating, emotional stuff, etc are bad but is blogging a bad secret? Your thoughts?
Luv, Jane

Monday, August 08, 2005

Lots of Good Quotes for Those of You Into That Like Me

Here are some good quotes I like for your reading pleasure. We will begin wirh pop song quotes which you can use as an introduction to Top 40 Pop- hehe.
 
"I've had you so many times but somehow I want more"- Maroon 5 (about Mark).
 
"Somehow I'm willing to do the things you want. Take me in your arms. Spoon feed my heart. And Drip by drip, I take it all sip by sip, I guess that it's make or break, boy here tonight... And the silence it belongs to you and I. Broke thru barriers and past the state of mind. I'm not scared no more. It feels divine. So take me in and catch me when I fall. I'm waiting on the edge. Uncut my soul. Snip by snip, I'm losing it bit by bit, I'm taking it step by step..."- Sugababes (Mark again)

"Hey girl, screamin for attention
Once you get it, you throw it away
I'm broken, I'm pickin up the pieces
I won't live in all your mistakes
I'm just givin it all, givin it all away"- Ashlee Simpson (a little about females, a little about me and the times I've given the physical away too easily).
 
"Baby, my baby, it's wriiten on your face. You still wonder if we made a big mistake. I tried to go on like I never knew you..."- BSB (hehe, I know. About my horrible ex)
 
"He's soft to the touch. But afraid at the ends he breaks. He's never enough. And still he's more than I can take. Oh cuz I don't knowI don't know what he's after. But he's so beautiful.Such a beautiful disaster..."- Kelly Clarkson. (Men in general)
 
"Run
Running all the time
Running to the future
With you right by my side

Me
I'm the one you chose
Out of all the people
You wanted me the most
I'm so sorry that I'm falling
Help me up lets keep on running
Don't let me fall out of love

Running, running
As fast as we can
Do you think we'll make it?
We're running
Keep holding my hand
So we don't get separated

Be
Be the one I need
Be the one I trust most
Don't stop inspiring me
Sometimes it's hard to keep on running
We work so much to keep it going
Don't make me want to give up"- No Doubt (Mark)

 
"Nothing seems the way that it used to. Everything seems shallow. God give me truth- in me. And tell me somebody's watching over me. And that is all I'm praying is that someday I will understand and God's whole plan and what he's done to me.." -Britney Spears (life and God for me right now)
 
"Do you know I cry?
And it's not the good kind...
You forced me to become strong.
And I just cried, being weak.
And you think you know.
And I would like to think so,
But do you know that when you go,
I fall apart."
- the wreckers (horrible ex)
 
"I'm surrounded by liars everywhere I turn
I'm surrounded by imposters everywhere I turn
I'm surrounded by a deadly crisis everywhere I turn
Am I the only one to notice?
I can't be the only one who's learned
I don't want to be anything other than what I've been trying to be
lately
All I have to do is think about me and I have peace of mind
I'm tired of looking 'round rooms wondering what I gotta do
Or who I'm supposed to be
I don't want to be anything other than me"- Gavin DeGraw (my theme song for while)
 
"How do you block the sound of a voice you'd know anywhere?"- Jann Arden (Exes)
Now for a little Christina Aguilera quotes:

"When you're safe inside your room, u tend to dream of a place where nothing's harder than it seems. No one ever wants their fathers to explain of the heartache life can bring... Now in a world where innocence is quickly claimed. It's so hard to stand your ground when you're so afraid"- (how I feel about life, my vulnerable side described perfectly)
 
"We both can seduce
But Darling you hold me prisoner" (certain guys)
 
"I was naïve
Your love was like candy
Artificially sweet
I was deceived by the wrapping
Got caught in your web
And I learned how to bleed
I was prey in your bed
And devoured completely...
I should have known
I was used for your amusement
Couldn't see through the smog
It was all an illusion...
I can't mend
this sore state I'm in
Getting nothing in return
What did I do to deserve
The pain of this moment ...
Everytime I try to grasp for air
I get smothered in despair, it's never over, over
Seems I never wake from this nightmare
I let out a solid breath, let it be over, over
Inside I'm screaming
Begging, pleading no more" (the story of that horrible ex and me)
 
Other non-pop songs:
 
"Is it really him or the loss of my innocence I've been missing so much?"- Deana Carter
 
"When ur alone do u let go? Are u wild and willing or is it just for show? I don't want to touch u too much baby. Cause making love to you might drive me crazy."- Def Leppard (first part is me, second part is how I want to feel about a guy).
 
"I don't expect my love affairs to last for long, never fooled myself that my dreams will come true. Being used to trouble I anticipate it. But all the same I hate it wouldn't u?... Everytime it matters all my words desert me so anyone can hurt me and they do. So what happens now? Where am I going to? "- Evita soundtrack (me and boys)
 
"If I had just one tear running down ur cheek maybe I could cope. Maybe I'd get some sleep if I had just one moment at ur expense. Maybe all my misery would be well spent. Could u cry just a little? Lie just a little? Pretend that ur feeling a little more pain. I gave now I'm wanting something in return so cry just a little for me... I don't want pity, I just want what is mine"- Faith Hill (Horrible ex)
 
"You give me that look that's like laughing
with liquid in your mouth
like you're choosing between choking
and spitting it all out
like you're trying to fight gravity
on a planet that insists
that love is like falling
and falling is like this
Feels like reckless driving when we're talking
It's fun while it lasts, and it's faster than walking
But no one's going to sympathize when we crash
They'll say "You hit what you head for, you get what you ask"
and we'll say we didn't know, we didn't even try
one minute there was road beneath us, the next just sky
I'm sorry I can't help you, I cannot keep you safe
I'm sorry I can't help myself, so don't look at me that way
we can't fight gravity on a planet that insists
that love is like falling
and falling is like this."- Ani DiFranco (what I think of love)
 
"Darling, I just want to say just in case I don't come through. I was onto every play. I just wanted you"- Fiona Apple (I used to put this as an away message back in college when I used to see this guy who only wanted to be fuck buddies but who I was crazy for)
 
Literary quotes:
 
"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."- Oscar Wilde

"To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it."-Confucius
 
"He who forgives ends the quarrel."-African proverb

"Love consists in looking together in the same direction."-Antoine de Saint-Exupery

"Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it."- Soren Kierkegaard (about all the other guys I dated- hehe.)

Now for quotes from my favorite show, "One Tree Hill"

"... to be nobody but yourself... in a world which is doing its best
night and day to make you everybody else...
... means to fight the hardest battle... which any human being can
fight... and never stop fighting..."

"It seems to me, that if you or I should choose between two courses of
thought or action.
We should remember our dying, and try so to live, that our death brings
no pleasure to the world."

Hope you enjoyed!
Luv, Jane

Guys Freak Out Too

 So I wrote this uber-long update last night before I went out and then my computer froze! Of course I never saved it so I lost the whole thing... DAMMIT! It was so good too. I am pissed! I am not sure I can write another with as much as gusto... but let us try!
    How do I begin? Mark and I are good, we had a tiny rough patch for exactly one day but then we got over it. Basically what you missed while I have been "Missing In Action" was that we started hanging out a lot. There was this one night where he came over and I started realizing just how understanding he's been about my defense mechanism and how honest we are about everything (I even told him about the lingerie fashion show for the guy friends! To which he responded with,
    "You mean like in your bra and underwear!?" He did not look happy.
    "No! My stomach was totally covered! Like in pajamas!" The pajamas I usually wear for him are a tank top and teeny tiny shorts so maybe that is what he thought I modeled for the boys because his whole body relaxed.
    "Oh then I don't care" he seemed a bit amused that I would do that but in a good way. Later that night as we're getting ready for bed, he pulled me to him,
    "You gonna model one of those pajamas for me?"
    "You want me to?" I said pressing up against him.
    "What does this face tell you?" He made the cutest, eager face and then nodded his head vigorously. I laughed and kissed him and went to the closet to put one on. Once in the closet, I realized I had to choose the most conservative one for obvious reasons! I put on this white one that has white satin on the boobs and little white pearls on the V neckline and then it turns into this sheer  little dress that barely covers my bum. It comes with a matching teeny white G-string. When I walk out, he's sitting on the bed. I do a little turn for him and smile bashfully. He looks me up and down appreciatively and then his mouth drops.
    "You wore THAT for your guy friends!?"- hehe, oops!). That night I wish I could remember the details so I could tell you but it was awhile ago so it's not that fresh. I remember after the sex lying there with him and thinking the words, "I love you"... Don't worry, I did not say them! That would definitely be jumping the gun!
    Then about a week after that, Mark had a freak out day. It was really more about something going on in his career which as you know, guys are psycho about but he took it out on me. It was weird cause earlier in the conversation when discussing one of his career options that might happen in a couple years, he included me and said something like,     "Yeah by then we'll probably be married with kids!". To which I responded with,
    "Whoa there buddy! Let's not go THAT far!". Then as I was like,
    "So when am I gonna see you?" he got all flustered and was like,
     "I have to see about work, blah, blah" and then started saying how things with us were going so fast and he felt like it was such a bad time for us to start when things with his job were so crazy- blah, blah, blah. So of course I freaked out and was like,
    "So what are you saying? You want to stop seeing each other??"
    "No, I don't think so... I don't know... I just don't know how much I'll be able to see you these next few weeks..."
    "I'm not some needy girl. I'm very independent. I don't NEED to see you that often. I've never pressured you to see me more than once or twice a week". Anyways it's overkill for me  to go into too much detail about it because the next day- of course after I was all stressed out the whole night, maybe even shed some tears- I realized that I had to be very careful about the situation. I understood his stressing out about his career and I could be understanding about that for the next couple weeks BUT I wanted to make sure that I wouldn't accept any bad treatment from him because I have done so in the past. So the next day he comes over and I tell him how I feel, what I want and expect from him and I'm pretty hardcore about it- I mean this is the time where you develop the patterns in your relationships and I refuse to allow someone to treat me badly because when you allow it- THEY WILL. So after I said my schpiel, he goes, "You are completely right. I overreacted last night and I don't want things to change- blah, blah, blah." So basically he got me worried for nothing and I have to admit his unsureness about us made me a bit insecure. It made me feel needy for some sort of reassurance from him which I hate and don't worry, I didn't ask for.
     That night we went out with my friends and I was, understandably, a little distant. He LOVED it! It became like this challenge to get me to warm up to him. After about 3 beers, I finally did. When we got home, I was extremely horny from the alcohol and cause let's face it- I was feeling a little insecure and in the past the only way to get some sort of reassurance from asshole boyfriends was through the physical, so now it's like this habit for me. I suppose it's ok cause instead of getting emotionallty needy which is such a turn off for me, I get sexually needy. We began kissing once we got into the bedroom. I was kissing him hungrily, "needily". We tumbled into bed. My hands roamed everywhere and I encouraged his to do so as well. Earlier I had told him that we should focus on our friendship and not so much on the physical.
    "I guess we won't be focusing on the friendship tonight" he mumbled kissing me harder. I didn't say anything, I was so speechless with lust. We're kissing and moving up against each other but we're pretty much fully clothed. We both realize this at the same time and start ripping each other's clothes off. For some reason when I'm needy, I kinda feel like I need to please the guy so I say,
    "I wanna go down on you so bad right now.." He kissed me harder and moaned.
    "Can I?" I asked, "Can I go down you?" I already knew the answer.
    "You never have to ask" he moaned. So I do and it is so hot. Right when he's about to come, he pulls me up.
    "I don't want to finish yet, not without you finishing too" and he flips me over to enter me. And then we have animal, passionate sex. At first he's on top but then while still inside me, he lifts one of my legs up and pulls it over him to meet the other leg to fuck me side to side. Later he kind of guides me to lie on my stomach and he does me from behind for the first time. I usually am not a big fan of that position, but with him it was great. Something about the way he fit inside me. I loved how take charge he was about the whole thing cause I find that so sexy in a man and sometimes I'm a little shy or submissive. Afterwards I feel reassured and not so insecure, silly huh? I mean I know it's just sex. He is always so supersweet after sex- kissing me, holding me, looking into my eyes and that helped too...
    That was probably a week ago. Since then, we've been totally fine if not better because I don't take him for granted and I feel like I'm really into him because of the little scare. His career issues haven't yet cleared up but he hasn't been taking it out on me. If anything he comes to me about it to talk. We've been hanging out a lot- all his doing and we seem to beprogressing. Progressing to where you ask? I don't know to a more serious relationship you could say? I'm totally into him and he seems obsessed with me again- about talking to me, seeing me, and sleeping with me :). So all is good!
    House-sitting ends this Wednesday so expect more regular updates. Hey and thanks to SethJ and others who have linked my site- you all rock!
Luv, Jane

Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Come back this Saturday for 2 Wild Updates!

So sorry I've been M.I.A. (Missing in Action!)! I've been housesitting in Cleveland Park and have no access to the internet.
I'll be posting Saturday everything that has been going on. But in brief- Mark and are good- I have lots of stories to tell- you have no idea!
And I'm not dead or depressed but have been house-sitting in this huge 4 floor mansion in Cleveland Park and have not been able to get on the internet to tell you about everything, but I will, I promise- Saturday. So check in on Sunday for the full update!
Luv, Jane

Monday, July 25, 2005

Quick TaxiCab Confession and Asking for your Feedback on direction of this Site

I forgot to relay this little story...- but wait first off, to all those who comment- thank you! I read every single comment, even though I don't always respond back (to be honest I usually email my posts in cause when I actually get into the site to edit, I can't get it to look right but anyways!). I think you all are awesome and I appreciate the comments and such.
    I'm liking the way I've been handling the blog lately but would love some feedback cause I can go a few ways now... More fun, drunk party stories; more deep, searching posts; or more explicit detail about my sex life. I've been dabbling in all three but I hold back just a tad on all three as well. As you may have noticed, when I talk about the sex I try to be as politically correct as possible. I mean I say penis and down there for God's sake!! I love pushing myself but I wouldn't want to go too far, so I'd love some feedback on what you'd want to read. I feel comfortable with you all so I guess I'm assessing if I should just stay with what I'm doing, or if I should push myself a bit more. But right now, I'd definitely post a picture or meet up with my fellow bloggers, whereas if I got more explicit... well, heck, it'd take me a little bit, but I'd do it. I dunno, would just love some feedback!
    BUT ANYWAYS!!! Back to the story, so on the way to the bars Saturday night I was in the cab with my best friend and a nice taxi driver and we're talking our heads off. First me and her, and then the cab driver just joins in and I am like, "Cool!". I'm telling her about Mark and our sex and then also about our big age difference (I'm 24, he's a young 29). And I tell her this story which I think I should relay to you. Here's me talking...
    "So I always tease Mark that he's with me because I look so young. I'm like, ' What are you Mark, a pedophile? I hardly look eighteen!' and he defends himself with, 'Hey, I met you at a bar so you at least had to be 21!' and then I always counter back with, 'Oooo, 21! So you hit on all barely legal 21's!' to which he gets flustered and schreeches back, 'I thought you were 26! You looked 26!' to which we both smile cause we both know I hardly even look 24"
To which my friend remarks, "Well who cares how old you look, it's all about maturity and you are so mature!" I look at her in shock.
    "Are you kidding me?? I am so irresponsible and immature!!"
To which the cab driver started cracking up about and responded,
    "Man I wish there was a camera in here so I could've gotten that on TaxiCab Confessions!" He then proceeded to mimic me in this high pitched voice valley girl voice, "I am so irrespomsible and immature!".
    As we then laughed our asses off, I proceeded to get "engaged" to the taxi-driver and we decided on a September wedding. When he dropped us off, he told the next girls getting in and that they'd better be as entertaining as we were. As he drove off, he informed me that that line should be my pick-up line of the night. And you know what? It was ;).
Luv, Jane

Sunday, July 24, 2005

The Mafia and Crazy Cab Drivers

    So the weekend went by with much less scandal. I went out to the U Street bars Friday with my girls and ended up meeting the owner of the bar, a group of successful business owners, and the mafia of a certain country I'd rather not name... in case they somehow stumble upon this and decide to put a hit on me!
     The mafia men told me they wanted to "spoil" me and take me out to fine dinners the very next day. When they said they wanted to send me on a spa weekend, I drew the line! I looked at them and I said,
    "Do I look like I need a sugar daddy?". The more gruff of the mafia men said,
    "That is very immature to say..." which angered me so I said,
    "Look, all I'm saying is you can't buy me" and the drunker of the men said,
    "No, no darling, we don't want to buy you. You can't buy a person. That is just too much money". My mouth dropped, I laughed, politely excused myself and started running for the hills- praying they wouldn't make me come back and talk to them. It was definitely interesting though!
    I have to say as a woman who is notorious for and makes a habit out of dating men who can barely support themselves- a bit of spoiling sounds tempting though. I'd love to eat at fine restaurants where entrees cost more than eight dollars and I don't actually have to pitch in. I can take myself and friends to these restaurants but I can't do it everyday and I can't usually take a guy I date. What can I say the guys I have dated have always been my age or younger... and not established or comfortable in the careers.... and one or two didn't even have a career! Mark is a different story though. But with my past, no one can call me a gold digger that's for sure! While I wouldn't mind being treated every once in awhile, I certainly don't go looking for guys who do that. It would just be an added bonus! But not too much spoiling! Then I'd get weirded out and begin screaming  about "sugar daddies" and how I'm not trying to be "bought"-lol.
    One of the successful business owners had a financial consulting company which is what Mark does. So I talked to him about the company and tried to hook Mark up. Problem is, when I'm drunk, I lie. So I told him all these fabricated things about me and also forget to mention that Mark was my boyfriend and not a family friend, like I insinuated-heehee (I figured he might not hire Mark if he knew I was WITH Mark- yeah I know, I was drunk!). It sucks cause he called the next day about me sending Mark's resume and I didn't have the balls to say but I was drunk and thought I'd never talk to him again so I made a whole lot of shit up! I'm ridiculous when I drink. I once told friends I had to use the bathroom, waled two feet away and talked to this hot guy and walked back to them. They go,
    "Honey, did you go use the bathroom?" I looked them dead in the eye and said,
    "Yes I did." They all looked at each other and smirked.
    "No you didn't, we just saw you go talk to that cute guy."
    "No, I didn't talk to any cute guy, I just went to the bathroom." I argued that lie for the whole night. What a weirdo I am!!
    I was pretty drunk Friday but my girl friend was drunker and began hitting on a married sucessful business owner. I practically had to peel her off him and remind her, several times, that he was married and yuck! We don't do that! The gentleman then paid for a taxi ride for us home.
Sucessful Business Owner: "How much for a ride to Van Ness?"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "Ten dollah."
Sucessful Business Owner: "Here's twenty, make sure they get there safely."
Me after we are 15 feet away: "Hey can you stop off right there so we can get pizza?"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "No. Man said straight to Van Ness."
Me: "We'll pay you extra"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "No."
Me: "Fine, then drop us back off, give us back the money, and we'll get a cab that will let us grab pizza!'
Foreign Taxi Driver: "IFine but no money back!"
Me: "Oh yes you'll give us teh money back, we have driven 15 feet!"
Foreign Taxi Driver:"No, YOU no give me the money, the MAN did. I only give money back to him."
Me: "Oh you are so evil!"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "You evil!"
Me: "That is so mean!"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "You mean!"
Me: "Oh you are so going to hell for this!"
Foreign Taxi Driver: "You a Devil- Woman!"
I storm out of the cab, have my friends sit in the cab so he doesn't drive away and Igrab the guy who paid for the cab. He comes out, yells at the driver and we then get the money back and a new cab and some pizza and then... I drop my pizza all over my lap. I still ate it though!
 
 

Thursday, July 21, 2005

Late Night Lingerie Fashion Show for my Guy Friends (Don't Ask!)

Yeah, I'm a crazy one for sure... Last night I went out with Phil and all his friends in Georgetown and drank a leetle too much. We had a lot of fun. When they called to invite me out I was like, "Yeah, I have nothing to do... I'll be there and I'll be wearing something slutty!". So I stayed true to my promise and wore this tight little strappy jean mini-dress I bought in Europe.
      Anyways to get to the meat of the story. I almost told Phil I liked him (who by the way has been lying because I think he still has a girlfriend). We were sitting at the bar and he is so weird with me these days! Anytime I try to ask him about his girlfriend or women he shushes me. I knew I gave him a hard time bout cheating and once tried to apologize for sticking my nose in his business cause he said I had "no idea about what you're talking about- you don't know the whole story/ situation". Whatever. Anyways so we're talking like normal human beings for once and I go,
      "Do you want to know why I gave you such a hard time awhile back?" He gets this look on his face.
      "You don't have say anything-"
      "No, let me tell you-"
      "You don't have to say anything-"
      "Maybe it's not what you think-" and he shushed me again. Did he think I was going to say that I once had a crush on him? I don't know. But more likely he probably thought I was gonna talk about that horrible ex and that is why. Boys are so dumb sometimes. LET THE GIRL TALK. Although I am glad this time he shushed me cause I really don't want him to know that I once liked him- yech!
     So anyways after the bars, I take them back to my place. We do shots of makers mark and I have some more wine (Why I continue to drink even though I already feel it- I don't know!) and I tell them how I got all this new lingerie to wear for Mark but  don't know which one to wear first (he's never seen me in lingerie- well at least not the sexy kind you to wear to bed, like those little teeny tiny lacy dresses?). Then I say, "Want me to model them for you?". They say, "Hell yeah!". So then I proceed to give them a fashion show of my new lingerie. Luckily,it covers most of my boobs, butt and stomach but still... How embarassing! I awoke on the couch in a tshirt and a thong and with the memory of me giving my guy friends more than eyeful. Hehe, it's a funny story though... I am mortified and am ashamed to answer my phone when they call, but it sure is a story to tell. Definitely some Up All Night action ;).
 
 Luv, Jane

Tuesday, July 19, 2005

Innocence and Making the Sex Good

I realize I have to start writing more. We'll see if I can ante up. First off, I just finished watching a biography movie, "The Brooke Ellison Story" directed by Christoper Reeves and starring Lacey Chabert (many people say I look like her, or Minnie Driver, or Jennifer Love Hewitt- all very different women with the similarity of having my brown hair, eyes, and small heart shaped face). It started off slow but once Lacey came in, it was amazing. Here is the true story of a parapalegic girl who went to Harvard and lived her life fully. Here I am a walking, capable, somewhat attractive girl and I run around thinking I have a hard life. Wow. I mean at least I can have sex- j/k. But no, it makes you think how lucky we are and how we take relationships, all of our abilities and capabilities for granted. You can't miss them until they're gone I suppose. Anyways, back to Mark and me.
So after our second time, I was a bit nervous. Were things going to ever click into place physically with Mark and me? He once told me that the thing that attracted him most to me was my innocence (ha!) and I'll admit I look innocent and young. I also get easily excited about things which might suggest innocence. But I'd call myself more naive then innocent, and I'm not sure why I'm still so naive cause I've had my heart broken and all that stuff. I think it's because I'm still so hopeful and trusting in a way. I guess I haven't seen that much of life or am THAT experienced with numerous men. I've had a few boyfriends, kissed a lot of boys, had a bit of sex and I've had the adventurous kind. But I have to admit I was not naturally inclined to that type. As a a newly deflowered virgin, I'd have stuck with missionary my whole life and never thought twice of it. But I had a very experimental boyfriend and I experimented with him out of love. I guess I learned to be adventurous in bed that way. But I suppose I still give off innocence because when I do suggest trying new things I do it a little awkwardly and with a child-like glee of naughtiness. It's hard to describe. I suppose I need to just grow up and stop that. But who am I kidding, I like playing the innocent role and my life at the moment at 24 has not taught me to be the most independent and business-like person. I've always resorted to "cute" to get my way and it's just starting to not work, since people are probably like, "Dude, you're 24 years old!". When in trouble, I play the helpless role and I'm working on changing that.
But anyways, I was worried that because Mark was so attracted to my innocence (he knows my number of sexual partners), we would never have any fun in bed. That I wouldn't be able to be myself (or who I was taught to be my exes you could say) in bed. So when our third time came around, he was spending the night and we were in bed and we began fooling around. I pretty much told him with my body I wanted to do it but he wasn't seeming to get it. Or at least he was content with the foreplay and I was just ready to get right to it! My body was a little too ready if you know what I mean. Too much foreplay gets me too ready and then there's less friction you could say- ha! So finally I stop mid-kiss and say the sin of girldom,
"What are ya thinkin' about?" His eyes are half closed with lust and he sexily says,
"I'm wondering if you have a condom around?" I think to myself- finally! I practically jump with glee and run to get it. When I return, I go down on him a little bit. But not wholeheartedly cause I really just want to have sex. Just a little teasing. He's looking down at me and says in a low voice,
"You're really good at that..." Just so you know that was my first attempt with him. I'm happy that he thinks I'm good or at least said that but he doesn't realize what he is in for! I wasn't even using my hand and that definitely helps things more.
This time I let him put on the condom. It's a bit awkward, me watching and waiting, has anyone else ever noticed that. And then he comes over and starts kissing me. I roll on top of him and start doing my thing. I always notice with guys you have to feel them out to see what main movement they prefer... the up and down or the back and forth. I personally prefer the up and down, the back and forth doesn't do much for me (oh and don't worry I realize those can both be used in alternation, etc). He seemed to like the up and down so I was a happy a camper. So there we are and I'm not saying anything or talking during even though I really want to. I guess I'm being cautious. I'm sitting up, sort of leaning back like one of my exes preferred ( I used to want to be romantic and lean in to make face eye contact and he used to ALWAYS push me up so now I just naturally lean back out of habit) so we're not kissing which can be kind of sexy. Then he goes,
"Kiss me.." So I do- hehe, and I'm thinking to myself, "Huh... This guy is so different from any other guy I've been with". I'm liking it in a way but let's face it at this point I want to know that he can hang. The rest of the session kind of mimicked the last time we did it, only that I was in control so I made it a little more sexual but catered to his romantic side with the kissing and stuff.
At this point I was pretty into him but I still had the defense mechanism thing going (which I'm sure will always be there in a tiny way), but then this weekend, everything changed. I explained the main story of us kind of reversing roles which was cool. But I think more than that, we had this open discussion about sex and our own sexualities and then after we did it.
I was totally open and honest about everything. I told him that I was worried to be myself sexually cause I didn't want to ruin the innocent thing he had going for me. He was like, "Hey, when it's just you and me, you don't have to worry about it. Innocence is about how you act with other people and who you are not about who you are sexually with me". We told each other in detail what we liked sexually, didn't like, what we had done, hadn't done, etc. Turns out baby boy is a bit experienced! He's done anal sex (not me!), sex in public places (yes me!). It was so funny cause I was explaining to him that I don't have sex with a lot of people but when I do it's a lot and I like to be a little adventurous. He's like,
"How much sex are we talking about with a boyfriend?" I'm straddling him during this conversation- thought it'd make it more fun.
"Like everyday." I say nonchalantly. His eyes widen,
"Every day!?" I furrow my brows, confused is that not enough?
"Well I guess sometimes twice a day with certain boyfriends. Why? How often did you and your girlfriends have sex?" He rubs his jaw.
"Definitely not everyday..."
"Oh, I thought that's what everyone did! I didn't realize there were guys out there who didn't get it every day. I think it's genetic, my sisters say they're the same way. I guess we all just have naturally high sex drives" He smiled at that.He's looking at me all differently, kind of sizing me up, astonished but with this cute light in his eyes.
"You're getting really excited about what you're in store for, huh?" He leans in to kiss me.
"Yup."
So after this conversation, we go to my room and start making out like mad. We are talking passion central. I'm moaning freely (finally! I was holding it in a little bit!), he's moaning (hot). We are rushing to get his clothes off, my clothes off, it's a mad scramble. Then I go down on him and at this point the defense mechanisms are gone after the sex talk I am just so into him, attracted to him, you name it- I'm there. So I do a really thorough job (note to females- use your hand(s! if you really want to get it done!), use your mouth in the porn star corkscrew motion not just up and done, etc). I can tell he's getting really worked up and I'm wondering if I should stop now cause I want to have sex and at his age, 29, maybe he's not like a 19 year old anymore and won't be able to do two rounds. Suddenly as if reading my mind, he tilts my chin ever so sweetly. He has the most beautiful look on his face, as if watching me going on an enthusiastic joy ride with his penis has not changed the innocence he sees in me.
"You want me to stop?" I say sweetly.
"Yeah, cause I'm about to come and wouldn't want to do that yet" he says in this low, almost gutteral voice, as if it is hard for him to talk cause he is so turned on. So then we do it- him on top. And let me tell you- fireworks! We're talking during (not too dirty yet, we'll work on that!), we're both loud- it is all pure lust... which ya know a girl wants every once in awhile. AT one point he's like, "Now you get on top" but he's doing such a good job that I'm like, "In a second!". And after we finish, the romance sets in and he lets me know how everytime we do something I get more amazing and amazing. At that point right there, is where I had that talk I worte about that flipped our roles a little. I liked it. And that's it. Now you're finally all caught up! What do you think? I have an extremely busy week at work so I won't be seeing him until this weekend. But I'll let you know how that goes!
Luv, Jane

Monday, July 18, 2005

The first two times...

So Mark and I have been progressing... A LOT. I am actually really into him. When he walks into the room, I can't help but stare at him and when he talks I'm focusing in on those hot Brad Pitt lips- which know exactly what to do to me!
He's a smart boy and he handles me well. He increased my interest by going out of town last week ( I know, I'm ridiculous) and by this story. First off, Mark told me last night that the on our 3rd date I told him I used to be into bad boys and that I said this sober. So the other night, after our fooling around, we're lying there and I go,
"So maybe we should have the talk" His eyes are closed and he looks over at me sleepily.
"Let's wait until I'm actually awake" he says with a little smile and rubs my head. The neediness of my past tries to creep in. I start thinking maybe I can't trust this guy, why would he want to hold off on the talk. I realize that I held off before but maybe he had changed his mind about me. I remain quiet, fighting those kinds of thoughts that I mention above in my head. I'm lying there reminding myself of his proven honesty to me, his encouraging of us to get more serious, etc.
"You got quiet all of a sudden.. What is it?"
"Nothing, but you saying you don't want to talk about it leaves me a little insecure..." He opens his eyes, props himself up.
"I don't want you feeling insecure. We can talk about it now. I'll wake myself up." He slaps his face a little and looks at me intently. "So what do you want to know?" I smile sheepishly,
"I don't know. I guess what we are..."
"What we are?"
"Yeah. Y'know like ....what are your intentions with me mister?" I say with a smirk and a naughty little laugh.
"Well, I guess we're dating... My intentions are to continue dating you. But right now my situation is up in the air with my job so I don't want to call us an item, until I know for sure that I am going to be around to follow through with my intentions..." - That's where he got me. Finally, he was being realistic and well, not serving himself to me on a silver platter. What I have been wanting from him since the beginning. I think he gets that so that everytime I see him there's this combination of affection and lust but then also teasing and a bit of a realistic, almost laid back vibe which I think is good!
Soooo in case you're wondering.... we have now had sex four times. Whoo-hoo!! The first time we had been drinking so that time is a little bit blurred and we didn't complete the act since we both didn't want our first time to be drunk.
The second time was sweet but a bit awkward. I'll tell you the story. We were fooling around on the couch and all of a sudden we stop and he looks at me, so I go,
"What are you thinking?" (I realize that question is supposed to be a no-no but I've had exes ask me that all the time, so I use it. If I am breaking a rule for all that is holy for men, I apologize. But so far I haven't had a guy freak out or seem annoyed that I ask that question. Perhaps it is only immature BOYs who have a problem with it? And Mark is most certainly A MAN ;) )
"About what we did drunk the other night and about whether you'd want to do it again.."
I snuggle up to him.
"I was thinking about the same thing...."
"Well, what do you think?" His brow furrows cutely and I reach up and touch them.
"Well, a part of me wants to wait a little longer to do it again (I always try to wait as long as possible to have sex with a guy for moral reasons and hadn't planned on having sex with Mark so soon). And then another part of me, wants to do it right now just to see what it's like..." I laugh.
"Yeah, me too..." We look at each other and then we just start kissing. As things get steamier and steamier- hands are placed elsewhere's and bodies move up against each other, so I whisper,
"I want to do it..."
"Yeah?" he asks, looking at me mid-kiss.
"Yeah." I give him my little wide-eyed innocent look and then change it into a wicked little smile.
"I didn't bring anything... Do you have anything?"he says.
"Yeah but let's go to the bedroom so no one can hear us"
"Why, you think you'll be loud?" he says with a smirk and a kiss.
"If you do it right, I will." We adjust our clothes and I run to get a condom and he meets me in the bedroom. And then everything takes this romantic, almost awkward quality. Because, see, we get into bed start taking the appropriate clothes off and it all seems too planned out. He kisses me slow, with lots of eye contact and then that moment comes to put the condom on. I try to ruin the romantic mood (It's too early to be romantic and let's face it at this point I wasn't as into him as I am now and I'm used to be the one who tries to be romantic- not the guy!) of the ordeal by opening the condom and saying,
"Let's see if I can put this on with my mouth..." His eyes widen but I don't say it with any confident sexiness like I should- more with an awkward- avoiding -eye -contact mumble (I know, I'll work on it!). I put the tip of the condom in my mouth and then move my mouth to where it's suppose to be and voila! I slowly use my mouth to put it on.
He switches the atmosphere back to romance and slowly enters me. He does everything so slowly and with such intensity that it makes me nervous, but I also realize how sweet it is and that astounds me. Where did I find this guy?? He's amazing! He doesn't tell me when he's come but I guess when because he suddenly slows down to a snails place, but he doesn't exit which is not the norm for me. He's kissing me and looking into my eyes and I'm so ridiculous cause all I can think about is that this is not proper condom etiquette, because you're suppose to pull out shortly after ejaculation so nothing spills! After an eternity he withdraws, gives me all these soft kisses and leaves to go dispose of the condom- naked. I don't peek, out of shyness and maybe because at this point I'm still feeling all defense mechanism-ey still and I don't want to get possibly turned off by him not looking so hot naked (shallow perhaps but that's how my defense mechanisms work)... For how the next two times went- tune in next time-hehe (that's my wicked naughty little laugh for you!!).
Luv, Jane

Thursday, July 07, 2005

Change of heart

      When you're happy, there's not always time to write much. When so much is happening, it is hard to reflect on your past. All I have right now is the fact that I'm loving the direction my life is going and I'm beaming.
    The weekend took me out in Georgetown and I spent the fourth in DC (Did anyone take the metro afterwards? Oh my!). And I spent most of my time with Mark. I don't know what happened, but I completely changed my way of thinking about him!
    It started Friday. I met up with him and a few of his friends and we went out to Georgetown. The first moment I saw him, my heart kind of jumped. He looked so adorable and hot. He introduced me to his friends and was holding my hand in front of them. It felt a bit premature but for some reason I didn't mind that much.
    I had been talking to my IM boyfriend (we've now moved to the phone, he'll be in town this month- DRAMA ;) ) about how I was freaking out about Mark and didn't know what to do and he told me that I couldn't string Mark along and that I had to tell him what I was feeling... So I did. And he was awesome about it. He was like,
    "That is completely understandable. I was wondeing why you were so distant. I'm glad you told me. I like the way we communicate. The fact that we tell each other everything". And then I felt guilty about my celebrity politicians ex home shenanigans (no not G.Stephanopoulas's) so I said,
    "Well I havem't told you everything..."
His brow furrowed,
    "What do you mean? What haven't you told me?" I gave him a helpless, uncomfortable look. He steps closer into me, searching my eyes.
    "You can tell me." I let out a sigh.
    "Well, it's probably not even relevant for me to say. It really is unimportant, but when you said that we tell each other everything... well, it made me feel guilty." 
    "Just tell me."
    "Ok, well remember last Saturday when I told you I got really drunk?" 
    "Yeah, and you said you got pissed off at some guy but you don't remember why." (By the way the next morning I was still drunk and I was pissed at that guy but I have no idea why)
    "Yeah, well something happened..." He gave me this look and took a slight step back and said,
    "You slept with him." He said it matter of factly as if it weren't a question. His eyes kind of darkened as he said it.
    "No! God, no! Don't you know me at all? Of course not! I kissed him, I think." He looked at me long and hard as if he were making his mind up about something.
    "Well we haven't been dating long and we never discussed exclusivity. I'm glad you told me. I'm not happy about it, but I guess I can't hold it against you" 
    Later on he told me that if this were to happen after 6 months of dating it would be the end all cause he doesn't need that kind of immaturity. He's right. He told me he hasn't kissed any one since our first kiss (2 months ago) but has had the opportunity, but he said,
    "Don't take this the wrong way but the reason I haven't kissed anyone isn't because of you, but more cause it didn't seem to feel right or be the right kind of situation"- that kind of attitude turns me on!
    I looked around the bar and except for the bartender (who gave off a gay vibe- sadly I'm attracted to that- DON't ASK) he was the hottest guy there and he was standing right by me all night with his eyes on me and his hand somewhere on my body ;).
    We got back to his friends place and had some more alcohol (Yeah, I know- gotta stop!) and I played my routine one-of-the-guys part. He raised his eyebrows in amusement everytime I said "Fuck" and when I brought up porn.
    We then went back to the guest bedroom and I devoured him. As soon as we closed the door behind us, I grabbed him and began kissing him, pulling him as close as possible to me. We both started undressing each other, undressing ourselves and fell into bed with a tumble.
    I remember kissing that hot chest of his (his chest, calves, hands and arms are my favorite part. Funny side note story about that. We were lying snuggled on the couch and he was telling me a serious, long story about a country he has visited. And while making a point, he accidentally flexes his arm. SO I stare and I follow that musled arm to the place where it connects to his body and then his pecs. I reach out and place my hand on one pectorial. Then look up at him and he doesn't seem to notice. AFter he finishes his story, i say, "You are so not observant. WHile you were telling that story, I totally checked out your arm and chest and then I felt you up!". He smiles cockily, "Oh I noticed. I just wanted to finish my story"- hehe). And I love going down but for some reason I didn't with him that night. Perhaps out of nervousness? And maybe because in the past, making a relationship so sexual changes the dynamic into something a bit more about domination, submission, or control. Perhaps I will write more on that topic at a later date.
    Anyways, he then flips me over so I'm on my back and begins kissing his way down my body. He gets to the good spot and he does this thing that I love. When a guy kisses all around, not just the two hot spots. He gives my inner thighs and everywere these cute, little kisses that then progress into a little more...
    ANd then we almost had sex. But not quite ;).
    He then came over Sunday and we hung out with my family. They LOVED him. They thought he could keep up with me and handle me and I have to admit, I agree. I think now we're both comfortable enough to tease and joke and call each other out and he was superaffectionate with me in front of my family which I loved and they probably loved even more!
     He spent the night and the next day we went to see the fireworks. While they were going on, we were standing and he had his arms wrapped around me and his head on the crook of my shoulder and a photographer for one of our newspapers came and took a picture of us (I haven't seen the photo anywhere yet).
    I know I have a million more stories to tell you, as well as one of my friends predicaments about who her baby's daddy is- but that will have to wait! It is 2:40 am!